Sexual Revolution
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PILL
I remember the first time I heard about the Birth Control Pill. Never in human history had sex been separated from reproduction. This was a Sexual Revolution. I was 16 or 17 at the time and I can still recall what I thought about it then. "This means guys can have sex with all the girls they want and they won't get pregnant!?"
In those days there were good girls and so-called "bad girls" in my high school. Good girls kept their virginity intact for marriage. Generally speaking, they were from good families with a father in the home, and might have an older brother. I remember older brothers threatening boys not to mess with their sisters and chaperoning their dates. Bad girls were not saving themselves and usually slept around—they were easy. Many of them came from broken homes, or troubled homes, resulting in a lack of self-esteem, or a lack of love and approval from a male person if their father was not in their life. Most boys wanted to test drive a few of the bad girls before marrying one of the good girls.
The Sword of Damocles hanging over us all was pregnancy. I was taught early that sex resulted in pregnancy and if I got a girl pregnant I'd better think a lot of her because I would be spending the rest of my life with her. Boys have always pressured girls for sex—that goes back to earliest times. Most girls did not want to do it and their best excuse was, "I don't want to get pregnant." Feminists hailed the Pill for granting girls great Freedom. I am not so sure. It took away their chief excuse to maintain their propriety and virtue. Now boys had a great new weapon in their arsenal of persuasion, "Just get on the pill honey so you can prove you really love me."
BIRTH CONTROL PILL
Studies show that 77% of white women were virgins when they married before the advent of the birth control pill. That number today is 5%. There has been in our society an explosion of promiscuity. The Pill was invented for married couples only, to be able to plan their pregnancies. That changed as a result of a lawsuit that came before the Supreme Court of the United States in 1972 Eisenstadt vs. Baird. The court could not deny any person the Pill, married or not, as a result of the earlier ruling in Griswold vs. Connecticut in 1965, where the same Court claimed to find a "Right to Privacy" in the Constitution. Don't bother to run look—it isn't there. Obviously murder, rape and incest are generally all committed in private. The Court admitted it wasn't there but that they saw "penumbras and emanations" in the Constitution—that means shadows and gases.
This same Right to Privacy ruling was used in 1973 to discover something that had never been seen before in our Constitution by 184 years worth of the best legal minds in America: A Right to have an abortion. Research shows that an average of 124,500 illegal abortions were being performed per year in America and 197 girls died as result of complications from them. The ACLU and Planned Parenthood claimed these numbers were one million abortions and 8,000 deaths—now admitted as a lie to achieve their political agenda. About 440 women died per year during childbirth in hospitals, so the dangers of illegal abortions had to be blown out of proportion to sway public opinion. I also remember what I thought the first time I heard about abortion. "What kind of girl would kill her own baby?"
Kill them they did—55 million and counting. 80% of these deaths were perpetrated by unmarried women. 3 out of 10 conceptions result in an abortion today. I find it interesting that the fathers of these babies—their natural heirs to carry on their genes and bloodline through the centuries—had no say in their extermination. But many women did bear children, of course, even if not married. Out of wedlock births to white women in the United States before the Sexual Revolution were 2%. Today that number is 26%. 70% of all black babies are born to unmarried mothers—up from 23% before the Sexual Revolution.
THE PILL
The separation of sex and reproduction led to a new phenomenon: Cohabitation. This was virtually unheard of before the Pill (1/5 of one percent of all couples) but today 19% of all couples are cohabitating. Whereas at one time in America 80% of all households were comprised of married couples, today that number is down to 51%. The marriage rate today is lower than at any time in history.
At the same time, sweeping changes happened in laws regarding divorce. In the old days, both persons had to agree to the dissolution of a marriage. The Sexual Revolution included the enactment of "No Fault" divorce laws, leading to an enormous increase in the number of divorces in America from 9% in 1965 to 50% today. Obviously, there are a lot of broken homes out there.
SEXUAL REVOLUTION
These astonishing changes in the mores, traditions, culture and laws of centuries of human society occurred in only 40 years. The general reaction of society was reluctant acceptance of this new reality. Patrick Moynihan famously described this as "defining deviancy down." Social Liberals lubricated this acceptance by various means. It was smoothed by new euphemisms such as "Reproductive Rights" "Medical Procedures" and "Pro-Choice" though the latter gives no choice to the baby whose life is at stake. Their main theory is that all individuals have a right to instant gratification of any appetite or desire. Moral Relativism taught us that each person creates their own moral truth so society has no right to judge what is good or bad in the choices persons make—narcissistic nihilism. Socially Liberal Sex Education for children was proclaimed to be a healthy response to the new realities. Radical Feminism (hostile to men and religion) taught us that all of this was simply freeing women from their chains of slavery to their families. Exorbitant rates of child support had to be confiscated from men, at the point of a gun, to make divorce an attractive choice for women. The feminization of men was required to implement this agenda. Welfare was required to promote illegitimacy (taxpayer support of illegitimacy).
Even the old main line churches adopted official pro-choice positions as they stopped believing in the central tenets of their own religions (they are dying out as a result). Whereas society—and certainly churches—once strongly disapproved of illegitimate births (bastards); cohabitation; divorce; abortion; fornication: today everything is to be accepted in the name of tolerance. It has been years since I have heard a preacher speak out against this new immorality. The new church is soft and therapeutic.
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE
Well, that's the good news. The bad news is that the Pill, and more so Abortion, is now known to have detrimental side effects to women physically, emotionally, and psychically. The cure of Sex Education in schools has proven a worse prescription than the original disease. Rampant promiscuity has caused unprecedented levels of Sexual Transmitted Diseases. 95% of all cervical cancers in women are the result of STDs. 19 million persons are infected with a STD each year in America—4 million of them teenagers. 65 million Americans have a contagious Sexually Transmitted Disease right now. 25% of all American adults have a lifelong incurable STD. All of these numbers of infected persons represent astonishing increases of 700 to 900 percent since the Sexual Revolution. I am not even going to get into the promotion of homosexuality by Social Liberals and the resultant health problems directly imperiling the general population via AIDS. That will require an entire essay to explicate.
SEX IN MEDIA
The culture of America has proceeded apace with these developments—Progress according to Social Liberals. In the grocery line Americans of all ages are exposed to magazines touting sexually themed headlines and scantily clad women. Playboy did not dare show pubic hair until 1968 but today hard-core pornography is available in most hotels in the United States and Pornography is the most lucrative business on the internet, earning billions of dollars. Maggie Gallagher said, "A pornographic culture is one which accepts the ideas about sex on which pornography is based." Every perversion imaginable is available for viewing by children and adults alike on the internet. I will not list them here though I could. It is too revolting for those of virtuous sensibilities. Motion pictures, which once did not allow a vulgar word or naked breast, now feature full frontal nudity, simulated sex, and every foul word known to man in large quantities. To quote Robert Bork, "Television has dictated changes in the way sex, social and cultural authority, and the personifications of good and evil are presented. Recreational sex, for example, is pervasive and is presented as acceptable about six times as often as it is rejected. It warns against restrictive sexual morality on these practices. The villains are not deviants and libertines but Puritans and prudes." Our culture sexualizes even teenagers via magazine ads and music videos. One look at high school cheerleading routines, or nightclub dancing, shows us how the human female has been degraded to a gyrating animal.
We have to think about the fact that this culture we have created as a result of the Sexual Revolution is seen by very young eyes. Are children affected by seeing Mom having man after man spend the night with her in their home? I have heard Social Liberals claim they are not affected in any way by any of this. The next time your kid asks for the latest Xbox, or Happy Meal, or Nike sneakers, or to see the latest movie—you think about if this is true. When you see your children pretending to be the latest movie character—ask yourself if what they see in our cultural presentation of our world affects them. Celebrities are the new heroes (exemplars). There was a time when a hero had to actually do something heroic. The effects of our culture on young minds are reported here: http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2372/is_1_39/ai_87080439/
FATHERS
Social Liberalism contends that fathers are superfluous to the rearing of children. I am a curious fellow and I don't mind asking individuals penetrating questions. A single friend in her 30s told me recently she was going to have a baby. I asked, "Who is the father?" She said, "Oh. That doesn't matter. He's not in the picture." A daughter of a friend, never married, couldn't wait to proudly show me her photographic collection of her four children. I asked, "Who is their father?" She said, "Well, they all have different ones. But they've never met them." And she was just as perky as can be about this.
But do fathers matter in the lives of children? ALL sociological surveys EVER conducted say resoundingly, YES! Children reared without their natural fathers show incredibly higher rates of criminal behavior, drug use, dropping out of high school and unemployment as adults. Boys in particular, show extremely higher rates of cognitive problems, hyperactivity, hostility, and suicide. Boys learn how to be men from their fathers. The response of Social Liberals? Give them Ritalin. Children of divorced parents are less happy, less healthy, and more dangerous to others and themselves. James Q. Wilson had profound words about the rearing of children, "Testing limits is a way of asserting selfhood. Maintaining limits is a way of asserting community. If the limits are asserted weakly, uncertainly, or apologetically, their effects must surely be weaker than if they are asserted boldly, confidently, and persuasively." Do not single parent homes increase the opportunities for teenagers to have sex in their own home without fear of detection?
RELATIONSHIPS
Then there are the relationships between men and women. Has there been an epidemic of spousal abuse and child abuse in the last 40 years as Social Liberals claim when their ideologies are used to remove fathers and husbands from their homes? If that is true—and some doubt it—why is it true? I am now going to turn to speculation about relationships in America, in regards to the explosion of the number sexual partners women have today.
Is it not true that women decide the morality of all cultures on Earth? Does not promiscuity perpetuate itself? If a woman has had 3 sex partners how gravely will she consider the 4th? If 10 how seriously is the 11th? If 100, how important is the 101st? If a man marries or has a romantic relationship with a woman that several of his friends have slept with, will he cherish her in the same way if that were not so? Since most of our universe can be explained mathematically, does it follow that: If a man is the 1st lover of a woman he feels himself to be in a special place in the universe? If he is 3rd does he feel somewhat special? If he is 100th—how special can he feel in his relationship? Does not each mathematical diminution make him just one of many and not so special at all? And if he is not special, does he, in his heart of hearts, cherish this woman who has shared herself with him? Is not feeling that you are special in the eyes of your mate one of the key features of a successful relationship?
FERTILITY RATE
A serious byproduct of the Sexual Revolution is a massive decline in the birth rate of native born Americans. American women had an average of 3.8 children before the Pill and Abortion. Today 1.4 is the average number of children allowed to live. Since the death rate is 2.1, at least that many children per woman is required to replace those who die—or an entire society is committing slow suicide. This creates an economic crisis for us. The 55 million aborted children would have become payers of Income Tax; and Social Security and Medicare payroll taxes. It shouldn't take a mathematical genius to calculate how this vanquished generation has caused our current shortfalls in funding of entitlement programs.
A BETTER WORLD
This is a Moral and Spiritual Battle for the soul of America. Our misguided generation came to see God's Rule of Sexual Conduct as somehow for His benefit. No. His Command is for our benefit. Some of you may not even know what it is. It is that no sex is permissible outside of marriage (and no divorce). This means each person would have only one sexual partner in their lifetime. Sounds boring and restrictive, doesn't it? Imagine for one moment if all people obeyed God's rule for Sexual Conduct. There would be no such thing as sexually transmitted disease, would there? No broken homes, no fatherless children (except by death), no illegitimate births, no adultery, and none of the attendant social problems that plague our nation. Would this not be a better world?
To read about how people justify what they do please read my Hub "Dr. Johnson." To understand what persons were behind the Sexual Revolution please read my Hub "The Progressive Movement." If you want to know who is behind the curtain please read my Hub "Prince of Darkness."
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Thanks for helpfull information!
graceomalley— I apologize for the delay in responding. I have read your comments about five times while I formulate what I want to say.
I think I was trying to come up with some response that was as profound as your comments. Failing that, I will say this: you wrote—
"Current estimates are that 50% of the sexually active female population has HPV, and 80% of the sexually active male population. This to me is the truly scary health consequence of multiple partners."
You can bet these statistics are not talked about in Public School Sex Education classes. That is because there are forces at work that WANT all youngsters to wallow in the sin that is promiscuity; to end up dependent on the government to support their illegitimate offspring and themselves. A dependent populace is easily controlled.
You wrote—
"many seemingly committed Christians think waiting until marriage for sex is unreasonable. I've come to see it as an acid test of who really is committed to Christianity."
I agree with you. When the Church bends morality to fit cultural fads it has lost its mission.
Things have traveled a long way, as you say. I am afraid it is all in the wrong direction. No love is required now to give it up to horny boys. Not only will girls do it; they'll do it on video for the world wide web! They have no shame. No sense of propriety. No idea of virtue.
We wrestle not against flesh and blood . . .
Something to add to the STD comments: there is no protection from Human Papillomavirus. One can catch it when having sex using a condom because the entire area around the groin is contagious. HPV is incurable, and can result in cancer. (I have a close friend who contracted it during rape as a teenager, and nearly died of cancer when she was the mother of 2 small children.) Current estimates are that 50% of the sexually active female population has HPV, and 80% of the sexually active male population. This to me is the truly scary health consequence of multiple partners. The very saddest cases to my mind are situations like my friend's, a Christian who wanted to wait for marriage, and had that taken from her. As if the psychological suffering were not enough, later in her life, having found a wonderful man, married and started a family, this ghost of the past comes back and nearly kills her.
As a teenager I didn't want to have sex, and liked the fact that my status as an honor student, and the fact that I was open about my committment to Christianity made everyone assume I was not available. I think this aspect is gone from our culture, and it is a loss. At my son's high school, the classmate who is most vocal about about how great his church is just got a girl pregnant. He is 16. I've seen this in the church as well as the larger culture over my lifetime: many seemingly committed Christians think waiting until marriage for sex is unreasonable. I've come to see it as an acid test of who really is committed to Christianity.
Another thing that has changed in my lifetime: the "you would if you loved me" line. While was manipulative, it at least assumed that the two people in question had enough of a relationship that they could describe it as "love." With teenagers now, sex happens without even going on a date, without having any sort of relationship other than we're both here now. Things have really traveled a long way.
france1982— Welcome to the Hub Pages Community! I'll be over soon to check out your first few Hubs.
I was not aware of the film you mentioned. Thank you for that. I made a note to check it out. The statistics you quoted are tragic and should be well publicized. But they are not. It is not politically correct to say anything negative about the consequences of people's behavior anymore, no matter how life threatening.
I very much appreciate your excellent comments.
I have watched "Let's Talk About Sex The Film Trailer". And I have just read the sad fact related to that film: "Every day in America, 10,000 teenagers catch an STD, 2,400 young girls become pregnant, and 55 young people are infected with HIV."...
krishubpages123— I apologize for taking so long to respond to your comments. They were in a HubPages Spam folder, for some reason, that I did not know was there. Your remarks are quite interesting. Thank you for reading my Hub.
Cassandra Lai— You are absolutely correct in every word you wrote. Thank you very much for taking the time to read my article. I appreciate you leaving your wise words of wisdom and truth here on this page. Well done!!
There are the term named "Adultery" and "Fornication". both of these acts are sinful in the sight of God. When God create man and woman, His purpose for them to be productive and multiple(note: no pills ,no abortion etc, please read book of Genesis. As the men on earth committed sins on sexual immoral, hatred, wars, killing etc. The wrath of God came upon the earth and God choose to destroy the earth by sending a "GREAT flood"....
GUESS what? ONLY 8 SURVIVORS, how many of you and l will be sure, when our holy God get on His nerves again....
How many of us will be saved from the disaster??? The Lord is crying out for ALL sinners to REPENT.
John 3:16 " For God so loved the world, He gave His only begotten son to this world. for whosoever believe in Him shall be saved and receive eternal life. "
It is not like before, eariler girls and boys indulge in sex at early ages, because of awarness, aids etc, now atleast other than USA based countries, indulge in masterbation, its kind of save sex and safe sex instead of unprotected sex at the early ages..masterbation is useful for now a days adults, so keep masterbating...to avoid unwanted pregancy, unprotected sex etc.,
Dchosen_01— I am not against the birth control pill. It was designed for married people. It took a Supreme Court case to force it open for everybody—that is how serious the country thought could be the problems the pill could open up. The scientist who invented the pill was heartbroken that unmarried people started using his pill for promiscuity.
Thanks for your excellent comments!!
Thank God for sexual evolution. I am and will always encourage birth pills, but for the married. Take for instance, I want to marry @ age 26 and by the age 33, I should have had the number of children I need with my wife. Does that mean I will not have sex for the rest of my Life? God forbid, pills or other forms of family planning now comes to play.
Good work!
2besure— Thank you! Thank you very much!
Excellent well done hub. I can see how you get so many page views!
Smiles46n2— I am sorry you didn't like this Hub but thanks for the praise nonetheless. I was there when this Sexual Revolution took place and I took part in it. At the time most people thought it was great! Now, looking back, we can see what we wrought. Much of the results are not pretty. I appreciate your comments. You make good sense. I understand your position on abortion. As far as not "judging" well, it is killing a living human. I don't see how this can be exempt from the sober judgment of thinking people. It is a very serious issue.
I thank you for visiting and commenting. Welcome to the Hub Pages Community.
I'm not a fan of this hub. Your a good writer in the sense that you speak your mind and is firm in your beliefs so i praise you for that and respect you. But you almost make it sound as if women are in the wrong for going on the pill and losing their virginity before marriadge. Women of all ages are interested in sex, (and believe me, all ages. my 7 yr old sister told me a joke about drugs alcohol and sex the other day) So the pill allows them to explore the sexual part of their world and nature without them having to always experience some of its side affects. And your mention of bad girls perplexes me, not all of them were from bad house holds, but they wanted to live and have fun, and, sex is fun. And the boys that wanted to "test ride" some of these "bad girls" are worse then the girls just for the reason that they believed they could and wanted to "try out" sex and sexual activities before settling down with good, respectable women, that they approved of. I'm sorry sir, But is that not a complete double standard?
And Abortion, is quite frankly, an open area for discussion. I believe if a women is raped,under the age of 20 and is in no condition(meaning finacially, or without permanent support and shelter)then she should be allowed to make the decision to abort her child without anyone judging her. But if they are mature, and have good conditions, and have not had prior abortions, they should not be allowed an abortion. It is a last resort for desperate families and women, not a form of birth control.
Kilby— You are welcome. I have heard that morality is making a comeback.
"It's tough to find it in a relativist culture that harbors all ways of life, but since it's grounded in truth it will be the only way of life that will survive."
Might I say this is profound.
Thank you for that. Ironic? Yes. Terribly so.
Thank you for this hub. As a part of Generation X, I can attest to the fact that sexual morality is slowly making a return among my peers. It's tough to find it in a relativist culture that harbors all ways of life, but since it's grounded in truth it will be the only way of life that will survive. A third wave is coming from the faithful in the third millenium.
P.S. The cruel irony of this page is that there's an abortion ad at the top.
christalluna1124— Thank you! I am pleased to find you in agreeance with my central premise. I am grateful that you like my work, Christal.
James
James ,
Great hub as usual. I totally agree. Our morality is out the window. Women aborting their children, using abortion as a form of birth control. They should have more moral control. Hang in there i think your hubs are great.
Regards, Christal.
Allan,
I appreciate your words of encouragement. You are such a pleasure to have as a friend. And, of course, you are right. Some will take offense when the truth is presented without varnish. :)
I'll be looking forward to that Hub.
I'm sorry to hear that some readers left, but a similar thing happened to Jesus in John 6:60-69.
When many of his disciples heard it, they said, "This is a hard saying; who can listen to it?" But Jesus, knowing in himself that his disciples were grumbling about this, said to them, "Do you take offense at this? Then what if you were to see the Son of Man ascending to where he was before?
It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh is no help at all. The words that I have spoken to you are spirit and life. But there are some of you who do not believe." (For Jesus knew from the beginning who those were who did not believe, and who it was who would betray him.) And he said, "This is why I told you that no one can come to me unless it is granted him by the Father." After this many of his disciples turned back and no longer walked with him. So Jesus said to the Twelve, "Do you want to go away as well?"
Simon Peter answered him, "Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life, and we have believed, and have come to know, that you are the Holy One of God."
Jesus you're not: But it is part of the disciple's calling never to be afraid to risk being misunderstood.
In fact, I am considering writing a hub called 'Women keep silent in the churches'. It may well silence a few critics if they take the time to read some surprising conclusions, and don't shoot from the hip contrary to the spirit of Proverbs 18:13 - 'If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.'
Allan,
I will add that sadly I lost a few long time female readers of mine whose comments above are the last I ever from them.
James
Allan McGregor— As usual, your comments are better than my article! And I thank you for it.
"Far more people know what the Bible says than actually understand what it means."
This is a classic sentence that explains a whole lot about the world today.
I knew when I wrote this that it would be provocative. Nobody else was stepping up to the plate so I decided to swing for the fences. At the very least, it got an important conversation started. At best, even a couple of people who were offended, were touched by it in some deep dark place.
I am surely glad you "got away" as I'm sure your wife, children and grandchildren are. A one woman man—that is the best possible life. I was on that path but got thrown off it—like off a horse. God Bless You!
Maaaaaaaaaaaan! I came across this hub late James, and am I exhausted after reading all the posts. About four miles of responses back I was going to answer a number of points that may be better presented as more substantial hubs.
The original hub itself was fine but obviously stood on a few toes.
Biased and written from a masculine perspective? Well, yes, but aren't all opinions biased? And a masculine perspective is what an intelligent reader might expect, since you're not an hermaphrodite.
Double standard? Of course, because there are two sexes (not withstanding my prior comment) and we differ greatly: physiologically, mentally, emotionally and culturally.
Normal sexuality is expressed heterosexually and 'heteros' means 'another of a different kind'. And before some wag asks - 'another of the same kind' is 'allos'.
I was going to tackle the poor Biblical exegesis of some, but Gloria Cowdery beat me to it and did a marvellous job. The claim that the Bible is full of contradictions is, of course, tendentious nonsense.
Jesus said that divorce was tolerated by God because of the hardness of men's hearts, and was a whole lot less judgemental of the Samaritan woman at the well who had had five husbands and was co-habiting with her latest partner, nor did he condemn the woman taken in adultery, but nevertheless told her to go and sin no more.
Far more people know what the Bible says than actually understand what it means.
Jesus actually expanded our understanding of Torah by illustrating that it is adultery to even lust after a woman. The reason he said so was not to bind us all even more tightly to the Law, but to bring the self-righteous such as the Pharisees who had imagined they had made the Law 'keepable' to despair; to where they would at last realise their need of a Saviour.
Also, Paul observed that marriage is a 'mystery' inasmuch as it is an analogue reflecting God's relationship with his people. This actually explains why men have a higher sex drive and tend more often to be the pursuers of women than the other way round, because in the antitypical relationship that the sexual dynamic symbolises, God is the instigator who passionately pursues us before we pursue him.
The sexual chaos that pervades humanity is a result of the Fall and a perversion of the original created order.
As for the abortion of the 'unwanted': I am one of those that got away.
My mother was 16 when she married a young soldier boy, but ran off with my father while her husband was on National Service. With no social and little family support, and only poverty looming, maybe she could have considered an abortion, but instead I was born on my father's 20th birthday and, after two years of hardship and abject poverty I was adopted.
23 years later I married, and have remained that way for 27 years to the only woman I have ever had sex with. And because my natural mother chose not to have an abortion I have two children who would not have existed and five grandchildren who likewise would never have been born.
It's been a Wonderful Life, and my name isn't even James Stewart!
C. J. Wright— Yes, I do remember you CRASH. You always made intelligent comments. I'll read your work here for sure. Thank you for letting me know that was you.
James,
Thanks, I had followed your hubs for a few weeks and decided to join hub pages myself. Your piece, "Partitioning America" was very interesting. We had a great discussion in the comments section of the hub. You may remember me, CRASH.
C.J. Wright— Thank you. It did create a minor uproar.:)
Hey, Welcome to the Hub Pages Community. I'm sure I'll be reading some of your work.
The hand that rocks the cradle . . . that is so true. I wonder where that saying originated?
I appreciate the visit and the comments.
Great Hub! Cetainly got people thinking. I wonder how many women really don't see, just how much they realy control societal norms. The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world....
angInflt4ua— Thank you! I appreciate the affirmation. Thanks for coming by. Welcome to the Hub Pages Community!
I enjoyed the Hub...found no offense in it...there are many truths in it that align with my own belief system. I will look forward to reading your other hubs.
SirDent— Potiphar, right? I guess you are right. Maybe it comes and goes like the tide. Women seemed pretty proper to me when I was growing up. I might have been lucky to have been surrounded by Christian ladies. Thanks for the Scripture. It is powerful and appropo.
Women have been aggressive for years.
Gen 39:7 And it came to pass after these things, that his master's wife cast her eyes upon Joseph; and she said, Lie with me.
Gen 39:8 But he refused, and said unto his master's wife, Behold, my master wotteth not what is with me in the house, and he hath committed all that he hath to my hand;
Gen 39:9 There is none greater in this house than I; neither hath he kept back any thing from me but thee, because thou art his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?
Gen 39:10 And it came to pass, as she spake to Joseph day by day, that he hearkened not unto her, to lie by her, or to be with her.
Gen 39:11 And it came to pass about this time, that Joseph went into the house to do his business; and there was none of the men of the house there within.
Gen 39:12 And she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me: and he left his garment in her hand, and fled, and got him out.
Gen 39:13 And it came to pass, when she saw that he had left his garment in her hand, and was fled forth,
Gen 39:14 That she called unto the men of her house, and spake unto them, saying, See, he hath brought in an Hebrew unto us to mock us; he came in unto me to lie with me, and I cried with a loud voice:
Harvey Stelman— Before I read your comments, I want to thank you for coming to visit and leaving your words. I know how hard that is for you and it means a lot to me. God Bless You!
I have noticed women are getting more and more aggressive. Even at my age I can see it! And you are right. Only the woman knows how the night is going to end. Very few men are unwillingly. Men are saps! That's funny . . . and it's true. :)
Tom,
I know when people see what I am going to write they will say, sure, bragging, I don't believe you.
I'm a little older than you and I can only give my perspective. I was a total nerd in high school, but a metamorphosis in college. I sang in many clubs and that seems to be all mmany ladies need to go after you. The pill freed them up to do this.
I had though many ignorant things, women are pure, women belong on a pedestal, etc. Hearing things like; "Oh, I'll be here when you finish with her, I can keep you going longer than her, etc." These things make you realize women are on the attack as much as men.
Men think they got a girl to go whatever. Women may tell their friends; "I'm gonna do him Saturday!" Then the guy thinks it was his idea. What saps we men are.
Before the pill of course the same thing happened. Take away the big risk, voila!
AEvans— Abstinence is laughed at by those in the darkness. Even many who claim it a worthy goal say but: it is impossible. It is possible for human beings to control their base urges. If it wasn't we could not have a society at all.
The 55 million abortions are the American Holocaust and a stain on our national soul—a nation so blessed by divine Providence turns its back on its benefactor to worship the golden calf of appetite gratification.
Thank you for stopping in to visit. I appreciate your wise words.
It is so sad that 55 million babies have been aborted and I believe that many think it is a form of birth control. Whatever happened to abstinence? You have said it all I need not say more. :)
pylos26— I am always pleased to support other writers. Thank you for visiting my pages. I appreciate it.
mr watkins...thanks for the traffic...you're a very generous guy...
pylos26— Ah! I see. I am familiar with this theory. I appreciate the clarification. I'll have to get over and read more of your work. Thanks.
sorry, bouble post
mr watkins...i did not refer to you as pagan...i was referring to your faulty field manuel called the holy bible that derived right out of the tail-end of pagan mythology.
pylos26— Thank you for your comment. But I am no pagan. I quoted the Orthodox Christian view has been believed for two millennia by billions of people and is believed today by two billion of the living.
No Christian person with a clear eye toward science has any problem with it. In fact the scientific revolution, you know, Copernicus, Kepler, Galileo, Newton—all Christians. If was the Christian belief in a created ordered universe governed by God's Laws that prompted these men to believe God had given us the intellect to discover His Universe and thereby see Him in His majestic glory more clearly.
Once again, I feel politely nudged back into my orbit…
The greatest man/women on earth may be the one that bridges that void between science and religion…perhaps you qualify for that slot…but, you may have to lose that bible of pagan mythology and confer directly with God.
I realize your quote is an opinion, (“to use it (sex) according to the stipulations of the giver”), but you do have a knack for quoting such dribble as fact…
pylos26— As I think you probably know, sex is one of the greatest gifts God gave to humankind. Not only is it blissful and joyful, but the two become one flesh and are thus able to reproduce themselves. What an awesome power. To be able to create another you or me. With this gift comes responsibility to use it according to the stipulations of the giver, which is in the marriage bed. I am not opposed to the pill for married couples at all.
Testing out lovemaking compatibility is Hugh Hefner philosophy. Marriage is not about lovemaking compatibility. Marriage is a commitment of two people to face life as a team come what may. That requires much more profound compatibilities than copulation skills.
But, you ask good questions and I appreciate your interest in my little humble Hub. Thanks for coming (no pun intended).
Mr Watkins…now why don’t we look at some of the positive attributes of the “pill”.
It allows serious couples to experience their love making compatibility before jumping blindly into a committed marriage. Do you sir, represent no feelings of bliss and joy in sex or is the act of sex, to you, to be used for the purpose of reproduction only.
pylos26— Fascinating hypothesis. Thank you for that contribution! I appreciate the visit.
Mr Watkins…it seems that some of your “bad girls” have realized their implied status and have soared into your snake pit carrying no anti-venom.
pylos26— John Wayne was neither but it always interesting to read your point of view. A tad unorthodox, but interesting nonetheless.
mr. watkins...i have to admit that i did not know john wayne was a feminest and most surely gay...yet again...more fodder for your "blind faith" followers.
madmac— Well that's hard for me to say because I don't know her, therefore I have no clue what might be behind all this. And I don't know the dynamics of your relationship with her.
That said, flying blind, I would tell her the truth. That you love her and want the best outcome to her life. That she is precious and things that are precious are not to be given away unless the receiver of the gift will treasure her. What she is doing is dangerous physically and damaging emotionally and crushing spiritually. Since this sort of thing takes on a life of its own once it gets rolling, it would help if you knew who the first 5 men were and what were the circumstances. That would be a clue as to how from there it blew up to 150 and counting.
I wish I knew more about the situation and perhaps I could be more helpful.
thanks again james but the qustion is do I some how broach the subject with her because dispite my concern that is a very personal matter
madmac— I was on the fence about if you were serious. If you are, I apologize for my flippant response.
She may enjoy sex—who doesn't? I think in these cases it is a self-esteem issue. What is her relationship like with her father? Was she abused as a child or teenager? A lot of it may be cultural and pleasure but 150 sexual partners is a sign much as drug addiction is a sign of a deeper problem, I think. What do you figure is really troubling her? She is certainly at risk health-wise. In fact, she has surely had or has an STD with that many sex partners. That's a lot of body fluids from a lot of men.
I thank you for sharing your concern here.
Thanks james but this is a serious issue for me as she means the world to me and Im thinking of her future. If you consider that she said she hasn't gone more than 2 weeks without sex since she was 16 and she'll be 25 in a month just do the math. Wouldn't that mean she could be considered addicted to sex? [ it could be she simply enjoys it] If and when she finds someone who she wants to spend her life with and their in an eatery and he over hears some guys talking about her and what she was like, this could have a serious effect on her if he leaves her because his ego won't let it go. Not to mention the chances of contracting aids or some other deadly virus. When you do the math you'll fine like me its a matter of time and if she is addicted should I try to talk to her as thats a sensitive subject. In my opinion for a person who is only 25 to have had as many as 200 plus [by doing the math] that would put her and others m/f like her in the wh--- catagory right? I would appreciate any responses from the women out there. Please ladies no nasty comments about whats good for a man and the like as it's important I love her dearly.
Opinion Duck— I agree with you all the way. The NHS will be the death of the United States as we know it. And if it is forced upon us, you are absolutely right that government employees and politicians must be included. After all, if it's so great, they should be raring to be in on it. :)
Thanks for your wise words here today. I appreciate it.
I have to comment on the SS, Medicare aspect of these comments.
I agree that Income Taxes and many other taxes are not good.
SS was forced upon the non government workers of the country. The government didn't protect it or invest for its future. They used it like a kids piggy bank for their own causes. Now that blame the people that they forced into their system.
At the same time, the largest work force in the country is the government union workers. They have their own system for retirement and they receive health benefits and holidays, vacations that are not rivaled in the private sector.
This work force is increasing every year, they can retire at 55 or even earlier and they are replaced by a new batch of benefitees (made up word). This is the tax burden that is enormous in comparison to SS.
Yet the light is shined on the SS, which is 68 olus to fully retire. The difference is that SS stops as long as you work. The person retiring at 68, could have contributed into SS for 50 years. After retirement, they work say at Home Depot to upgrade from their Alpo diet. They continue to pay into SS. Contrast this with the government worker, once they retire they never contribute to it again. In addition, they have beneficiaries for their retirement in case they die before retiring. I believe SS is still $255 for death benefits. In addition, they want your estate to return your last check depending on when you died.
The workers in the private sector have been losing jobs and companies to work for. This puts a burden on the SS contributions. At the same time the government is still adding to their workforce.
Do the math, and tell me which is the more critical economic problem. Keep in mind that some Federal workers are retiring with 6 figures a year.
And if there is a NHS, then we should induct all the government workers into it. Especially, the politicians. If the politicians won't voluntarily adopt the NHS as their primary health care then we the people in the SS sector shouldn't have to accept it.
If this was a bullfight, the SS caused the little bleeds, but the NHS is the death sword.
How can the SS workers afford to pay for the high price and burden of government workers?
Aya Katz— I cannot disagree with you. Your insights are keen. Thank you for the visit, too.
Universal Laws— I am sorry to disappoint you. I am sure in real life your are a very nice, joyful lady. Thanks for your comments.
James A, Watkins, I'm glad we agree on the income tax. It is unconstitutional.
It's just that your argument about the unborn supporting us all reminded me of what an interventionist commentator said on one of my anti-socialism hubs: think of all the productivity that was lost during the great depression!
I don't think that we have a right to count on productivity that hasn't happened yet. A real economy depends on things that actually happen -- not projected growth trends.
Tom Whitworth— Great question. The original pro-abortion people were outspoken Eugenicists (Margaret Sanger, etc.). But after Hitler, this view expressed in public was verboten.
That is a great link you sent me. In fact, let me copy and paste from it right here:
Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr., today responded to the remarks of Senator Barack Obama, who said that “quiet riots” take place in black neighborhoods every day because of hopelessness.
“Senator Obama may know of the ‘quiet riots’ coming from the black community,” said Dr. King, “but he doesn’t understand their source. Seventeen million black babies have been killed by abortion and the cries of those children, their mothers, and their families are what Senator Obama is hearing. I invite him to listen to those cries more clearly and compassionately. I pray he will realize that hopelessness and despair are only deepened by aborting those who are the future.”
Aya Katz— I agree with you. I am not in favor of the income tax, or FICA taxes. I am sure you know that income tax is unconstitutional, or was until the 16th Amendment in 1913 passed to make it legal. I believe the Federal Reserve was formed the same year.
Once we have SS though it does depend on the young to take care of the old. As I am sure you know that was once 13 taxpayers to one retiree and soon will be 2 to 1. 55 million more young working age people would have helped that imbalance. And, of course, if our citizens won't have 2 or 3 children per female we are committed national suicide—as many western countries are.
Thank you for your wise words. You are plenty sharp.
Tom Whitworth— Thanks for the additional information. I have never pressured a woman for sex but I have fought more than a few off! :D
Thanks for revisiting and leaving your comments. I appreciate it.
Not even a good try James there's something quite passive agressive about the energy here, I have better things to do.
True natural humour is a wonderful thing which I appreciate.
Namaste
Hi James,
Is abortion choice or eugenics by another name. Link below puts some meat on the bone.
James A. Watkins, I've re-read this hub, and I've noticed another, different aspect, of your argument that I think bears addressing:
"This creates an economic crisis for us. The 55 million aborted children would have become payers of Income Tax; and Social Security and Medicare payroll taxes. It shouldn't take a mathematical genius to calculate how this vanquished generation has caused our current shortfalls in funding of entitlement programs."
Are you in favor of Income Tax, Social Security and Medicare Payroll taxes? I'm not. Trying to balance the budget on the backs of the unborn seems to me to be a highly immoral practice.
Whether fewer people are born due to abortions, contraception or simply people choosing to mate at a later age and therefore producing fewer young, is not the real issue in this financial argument. The real issue is that one should not count one's chickens before they hatch.
Nobody has the right to expect other people to bear and raise children just so as to create a bigger market of consumers and taxpayers.
In fact, that kind of economic planning is a pyramid scheme that is bound to end badly, sooner or later.
Hi James,
About the link. Further research statistically showed that the earlier one started the more partners one had. This follow up link was in the early to mid 1970's still before the cause of HPV was known. But clearly something was related. (more partners=greater exposure)
Back to the 1963 original report. I shared this data with my girl friend of that time. This report gave me great insight to absolutely not use any sort of pressure on the matter of our sexual conduct.
Lisa HW— You have made a brilliant assessment of the modern situation and I appreciate your thoughtful insights. Thank you very much.
Duchess OBlunt— It's good to think. I love to think. I think therefore I am. :D
I haven't read any Hubs in maybe a week. That Russia thing was a bear—pun intended. I'm taking some time off writing for a few days to catch up on the Hubs I've missed, including yours. Thanks for your support.
I wouldn't want to see things returned to some of the truly misguided and weird ways of the past; but I do think the pendulum has swung too far in the other direction, and I don't think that's good either. I raised my two sons and daughter all with the same message, and that was that I hoped they would realize that sex is a serious enough thing that it shouldn't be something everybody does with everybody else. I wanted them to respect themselves and the significance of sex, as something that really should be between people in a serious relationship (in my opinion).
I think comparing humans to animals and bringing up the simple role of sex as means of procreating overlooks that humans are more complex. They have complex emotions that go beyond what animals have; and they have relationships with others that are built with those emotions. When couples are in a long-term relationship there is a relationship-building aspect of sex, and there are emotional aspects of that intimacy, that are more complex than just "having the urge". There are also differences, obviously, between male and female sexuality; and I do think it has been wrong to tell women that the pill has made them "equal to men" and they can feel free to follow their wishes to act as promiscuously act men (presumably) are thought to act. First, not all men are out picking up new women every night of the week; and second, women's sexuality is not the same as men's.
Everything else aside, I've always seen The Pill as "freeing up women to take medical risks (more in the past than now, perhaps) by taking hormones". I don't happen to think a casual relationship is worth mucking with one's own reproductive system (even if the risks are now said to be small).
Thanks James, I'm glad you removed the picture. I think your hub has sparked some heated hubs by others.
You certainly make us think don't you?
Drew Breezzy— I have noticed young women are very aggressive. The Left is in absolute denial about the damage caused by broken homes. They can always find somebody who came out great to hold up as an example while ignoring mountains of sociological research that clearly shows all is not well.
Thank you for your wise words.
The collapse of the American family is tragic. I have seen that children in broken homes have the most emotional and behavior issues. Also in today's society many girls are pressing the boys for sex.
Paradise7— Welcome to the Hub Pages Community!
Your comments are excellent. I agree that many of the young men I know—I have a son, 30, and daughters, 31& 17—have little interest in commitment. I think my point is, if the same guys in a small city pass around the same women, all on the pill, why would they want to marry them? I think the pathologies I am describing go a few levels deeper than the reactions I am getting. Any commodity is valued by its scarcity. That's why gold and diamonds are cherished far above plain old dirt. Plain dirt is everywhere.
I think the whole thing is a big shame and I'm not innocent. I truly meant no offense.
Thank you for reading and writing.
Well, James, you certainly hit some hot buttons. I do remember the good old days when teenage guys desperately attempted to wrestle the bra off their dates at the drive-in movies, with indifferent chances of success. Touching--actually touching!--a breast was a very big deal to those 17-and 18-year old men, and gave them bragging rights in the locker room for months. I'm 51 years old, born in 1957 at the tail end of the baby boom, and have seen these changes.
Now it seems the 14-year-olds are text- messaging each other to set up an orgy, making a video of it with their cell phones,then publishing said video on the internet.
It's a very different world, and it doesn't seem like a better one in many ways to me. Romance is going out the window as rampant promiscuous sex comes in at the door.
For a woman, it's a very tough world. Relationships with men are unstable and a cause of deep uneasiness. You simply can't trust that a love relationship will last. So many women are single mothers and that is one difficult row to hoe. It isn't the WOMAN'S choice. I think you're wrong there. MEN are the ones that want to chop and change all the time. MEN are the ones that typically have the commitment problems.
You wrote this article well and did some research. My hat's off to you there. But your male-biased point of view misled you to come to some incorrect conclusions.
ftgfmom— I'm glad you stopped in. I published a Hub tonight after working on it 4 or 5 days—the longest ever. I am glad you enjoy them. Thanks.
You sent me a lovely email the other day and I read it and was going to write back but I can't find it now. I don't know if it got deleted or what. I have over 800 emails not yet read, so maybe its in there somewhere. If you have it, please resend. Otherwise, thanks for the encouragement!
Just stopped by to check on you. Looks like things are calming down a bit. Time for another hub? Love your hubs. Keeps us on our toes.
madmac— Good question. Well, it isn't as many as Lisa Spar who had sex with 919 different men in one day (world record). I suppose she is the ultimate feminist. Nobody's going to hold her down! :D
I would say 150 makes your niece a serious contender for that appellation you mentioned.
Universal Laws— I swear, you are the most humorless person on HubPages. Obviously, I was joking. You need to smile or laugh once and a while. This is particularly troubling when you are so enlightened. You ought to be the happiest person in town!
sbeakr— Welcome to Hub Pages.
I think women are far more objectified now than they were before the Sexual Revolution.
I am not making up those numbers of HPV or their link to cervical cancer. This is widely known. Do a little Google search for yourself and you will see.
Admittedly, this was written from the point of view of a man. It would have been difficult for it not to have been since that is what I am. You are free to write "The Sexual Revolution as experienced by a woman" and I'll be glad to read it.
I do appreciate you for taking the time to read my article and your comments are good. Thanks!
Kermit2000— Welcome to the Hub Pages Community! Your comments in this thread are great and I look forward to reading your work soon. Thank you.
I didn't know where to post this question so I thought why not here. It concerns my neice who will turn 25 soon. While drinking she admitted to have had 150 plus sexual partners since she turned 16. She was being very serious so I mentioned std's and she said she can't say she used protection all of the time but usually she does. We were on the subject of how many partners do you have before your considered sluts. Is this a lot of sexual partners and how many are before they are
Well Well Well - Have just seen your comment James on the hub called "HAPPY WIVES ALLOW THEIR HUSBANDS TO CHEAT" I was intrigued as to who would want to say this and I found your comment "Brilliantly conceived ideas eloquesntly expressed. Congratulations! This is a fantastic Hub!
Hypocrite or what!!!!
Namaste
"I was 16 or 17 at the time and I can still recall what I thought about it then. 'This means guys can have sex with all the girls they want and they won't get pregnant!?'"
This speaks volumes. A huge root of sexual overgrowth is the rampant 'biological' masculine perspective on the issue.
'[The Pill] took away their chief excuse to maintain their propriety and virtue.'
Excuse me, but my chief excuse to maintain said virtue is my own good sense. That inane statement is enough to stain this entire hub with the same self-centered masculine perspective aforementioned.
What 'Feminists' meant when they alluded to 'freedom' was that with effective (but still not guaranteed) birth control, a woman's playing field was substantially leveled to that of men. Perhaps that's not a good thing, as you eloquently argue, but it made the point that women were not to be viewed as subjects. We have always been treated as objects to whatever degree, and you're right in asserting that birth control has not changed that.
What needs to change, rather, is the way you discombobulated men seem to think of us. The Pill is not a culprit or an excuse, and neither should women be condemned any more for their sexual choices than men. Instead of raising your girls with the FEAR of 'god,' teach your boys the innate RESPECT that women deserve. And please stop quoting pseudo-prophetic morbid 'statistics' on HPV...anyone can project numbers to use as propoganda. It's not a respectable means of getting a point across.
Ah the stench of liberal postmodernism creeps in all around us, sometimes without realising. It's like when Pilate in the Gospels asks; 'What is truth?' That means individuals decide for themselves. Great hub by the way.
In the UK there is a similar phenomenon; the highest teen pregnancy rate in western europe and a prudish nature to brush issues like this under the carpet. At least you guys are more willing to discuss issues of promiscuity whereas your british counterparts tend to remain stiff and upper-lipped regardless.
maven101— I did not know that. Very interesting. I appreciate you sharing that with me.
opinion duck— You put forth some very interesting propositions. I thank you for coming to visit and leaving your highly original insights here. I cannot disagree with you.
Interesting...The " Frozen Chosin " was a nickname given to the campaign in North Korea by the 1st Marine Div in November, 1950...The huge reservoir was frozen solid which allowed certain Army units to escape a ChiCom encirclement...and to have the same descriptor for Presbyterians is amazing...Thanks for the explanation...Larry
James,
The real problem is that humans are not animals but have the same reproduction equipment. Animals have sex to replenish their kind. Many of the animals insist on survival of the fittest.
Humans don't have sex to procreate, they have sex because it is a human desire. Some may procreate but they do it mostly because it feels good.
The results of our sexual encounters is more random than planned and certainly not in the realm of fittest. This creates most of the many problems that we have with sex.
For example, if an animal has too many in their litter, the weaker ones die. If an animal is born with a defect, they are destined for a short lived existence.
The comparisons can go on an on, the result is that we were bestowed the sex drive of an animal but not the constraints of how nature thins the herd.
My point is that as the most intelligent creatures in the world, we should have had a separate sex mechanism from the procreation mechanism. A mechanism that we can have only sex without procreation until we decide that this time it is for a baby.
We have not evolved from ancient times, where puberty and adulthood were the same. In the current world, children are going into puberty earlier than they did fifty or hundred years ago. The mores of the country has become very loose regarding sex. Still a 12-14 year old women has to wait four or more years fighting raging hormones until they can satisfy their hormones. When animals can procreate, they do it then, they don't wait for years later to do it.
So society tries to artificially contain nature, and it is not working out that well today.
The bottom line is that we have intelligent brains, that can be grounded because of a primitive reproductive system and a society that is out of step with nature.
jiberish— Well . . . I said it was a compromise! :-)
SweetiePie— Never! I was not speaking down to you. Gosh, that hurts my feelings. :(
I wouldn't do that.
maven101— The "Frozen Chosen" is a nickname for Presbyterians because of their doctrine of Predestination ad their quiet reserved services. :-)
Misha— I have worked on it for four days and I hope it meets your approval as it is about your Mother Land.
James, the picture is far to nice. :)
As someone that has studied first hand accounts of women and men in various time periods I can assure your promiscuity and sex did not originate with the birth control pill. You can belittle my comment and speak down to me, which is popular when someone thinks they are right, heck I probably do it sometimes myself, but I probably should stay away from your hubs. Yes sexually transmitted disease have been around, even back in ancient Egypt. You can pretend my insightful second comment was not up to par, but that is just not so.
James: The frozen Chozen..? What is that about..? Are you perhaps referring to the Chosin Reservoir, Thanksgiving, 1950..? The one where my beloved " Chesty " Puller and friends " didn't retreat, but advanced in another direction.." .....Larry
Holding my breath in anticipation :)
Misha— Hello, old friend. Thank you for your kind comment. I think my next Hub will finally be one you will agree with. At least I hope so.
maven101— The "Frozen Chozen?" I'm not sure how much fun they have. I will tell you that when I was a young man my dad, who was never a church goer but was a legendary skirt chaser, told me, "Son, you always want to find your women in church—never in a bar." I asked him how come and he said, "The church girls will do everything but just not with everybody."
I did write this as a religious Hub at all. The last paragraph mentions religion in the form of a question—which not one person has answered. It's an important question because if the answer is yes, it would be a better world (and it is), why are people so violently upset (not you) about someone saying so? But, the Sexual Revolution has little to do with religion. A lack of it maybe. :-)
Thanks, man, for swinging in and leaving witty words.
As usual I disagree with most of the statements, but what an excellent piece of writing! Frankly did not expect anything less. :)
Universal Laws— I was just having some fun with my last post. Surely a huge brain can appreciate a little humor? I'm glad you visit and comment. It's a free country and you can believe whatever you want.
My consciousness has never been stretched!? For all you know I have been on 500 acid trips. It just might be possible I have read up on conspiracy theories and found them wanting. It might be that I have studied meta-physics for 40 years every day from every angle possible and arrived slowly and gradually to the Truth, which is Christianity. A rigid box? For all you know I just might be a world traveler who investigated the sociology, anthropology and history of most of this planet. I might even be a very creative artist. I could be a polymath who is an autodidact. I could be someone who grew up alone and thus had no pre-conceived notions about the universe and thus was a far more Tabula rasa than even the wide-thinking you.
Now, I shared a sampling of the level of intellectual powerhouses in my library with you including quite a few books of over 1000 pages with a lot of big words. What you got in your library?
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shayanashop— You are welcome. Thank you for reading my work.